long distance relationships

[misslissa]

i actually know people that have made it work.
my friend joe lives in CT and has a woman out here in CA. they're now engaged and she just moved out there after dating him for about a year and a half.
has anyone ever had a LDR?
tell me your thoughts about it.

[Gidgidonihah]

I've had a couple actually, the the distance varied.  I had a girl back in Massachusetts for a while.  That just kind of ended cause of the distance. I also had a girl in Logan, which for you non-Utah types, is about 2 hours away from Provo.  The only reason that didn't work out is because I went on a mission and realized how young and immature she/I was/am.

[Jakestaby]

I've had my fair share and they've always failed, mostly because I've strayed.  Okay, always because I've strayed.  I think 9/10 or maybe even 99/100 long distance relationships are destined to fail, unless both people have never had relationships before and if it were to end, probably wouldn't have another one again for a while.

[misslissa]

so then my friend's relationship was that 1%?
i guess i believe that anything can work if two people are willing to make it work.
then on the other hand, im skeptic.


i wont lie. ive had thoughts about trying it out cause ive never done it. im not a strayer if im committed, but i think id miss him so much id get depressed.
i would be waiting for someone to say, 'there's lots of people in los angeles melissa. why do you need to find the one so far away?' and thats where i say 'los angeles men are crap.'

[Latro]

my LDR always consisted of "you do what you want when I'm not here, and don't tell me about it, and I'll do what I want when I'm not here, but HUGS, KISSES, We're together"

So yeah.... I've never had an LDR....

[misslissa]

my LDR always consisted of "you do what you want when I'm not here, and don't tell me about it, and I'll do what I want when I'm not here, but HUGS, KISSES, We're together"

So yeah.... I've never had an LDR....

yeah.. id say that youve never had an LDR either.

[Samurai Lincoln]

so then my friend's relationship was that 1%?
i guess i believe that anything can work if two people are willing to make it work.
then on the other hand, im skeptic.


i wont lie. ive had thoughts about trying it out cause ive never done it. im not a strayer if im committed, but i think id miss him so much id get depressed.
i would be waiting for someone to say, 'there's lots of people in los angeles melissa. why do you need to find the one so far away?' and thats where i say 'los angeles California men are crap.'

fixed

[misslissa]

so then my friend's relationship was that 1%?
i guess i believe that anything can work if two people are willing to make it work.
then on the other hand, im skeptic.


i wont lie. ive had thoughts about trying it out cause ive never done it. im not a strayer if im committed, but i think id miss him so much id get depressed.
i would be waiting for someone to say, 'there's lots of people in los angeles melissa. why do you need to find the one so far away?' and thats where i say 'los angeles California men are crap.'

fixed

oh.. my bad.
so then, where are they?

[ikonoclast]

so then my friend's relationship was that 1%?
i guess i believe that anything can work if two people are willing to make it work.
then on the other hand, im skeptic.


i wont lie. ive had thoughts about trying it out cause ive never done it. im not a strayer if im committed, but i think id miss him so much id get depressed.
i would be waiting for someone to say, 'there's lots of people in los angeles melissa. why do you need to find the one so far away?' and thats where i say 'los angeles men are crap.'

fixed

fixed. but in men's defence women are idiots.

[misslissa]

not all men are crap.
the good ones are just not in southern california.

[Labyrinthine]

so then my friend's relationship was that 1%?
i guess i believe that anything can work if two people are willing to make it work.
then on the other hand, im skeptic.


i wont lie. ive had thoughts about trying it out cause ive never done it. im not a strayer if im committed, but i think id miss him so much id get depressed.
i would be waiting for someone to say, 'there's lots of people in los angeles melissa. why do you need to find the one so far away?' and thats where i say 'los angeles men are crap.'

fixed

fixed. but in men's defence women are idiots.

Fix'd.

[misslissa]

lol.. thanks laby. but thats not all the way true either.

[ikonoclast]

it's really simple. men are dumb, but women are idiots.

YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE.

[misslissa]

hm.

whatever

[mactombs]

When you're Long Dong Silver, every relationship is long-distance.

Seriously though, long distance relationships are mostly good for the status, so you can say, oh I have a s/o. And then think about other things. Or if they're wealthy and it's more of a reservation to ensure a step up on the social hierarchy for when you can finally move into their house without it seeming too weird.

It's nice just to have the status. Sometimes I wish I had a girlfriend only so that I could say that I had one.

Otherwise, long-distance is difficult. No convenient physical intimacy. No actual time spent together. It could work out, but to me it seems in situations that end in it working out, it was either more of a reservation for when one person can move or some element of desperation.

When it comes to the long-distance thing, especially if a lot of it is e-relationship, there's inevitably a great deal of fanciful thinking and self-deception or imaginative visualizing of what the other person is really like -- almost always unrealistic.

If you've never actually seen or met the other person in real-life, then it's not actually a relationship. It's mutual delusion.