... but you also have to expect that there will be tons of precautions going into the next relationship or situation with someone else.
exactly, we all just manage our precautions differently. some never do anything again, some run blindly into an abusive relationship. i waited a good 3 years before i let myself even come close to falling for someone again. as i said it takes patience.
Sometimes, its easy for us (girls and guys) to not be able to see past what someone else has done to us to only expect that the new person do the same as the last person before them.
communication over time is really the only way to find out if someone is going to hurt you or not. if you communicate and are honest just wait and see if the are honest, and if they aren't honest then they have to deal with the consequences. in short, don't take peoples sht.
as for backbitey crap, girls do that to eachother. it's competitive. same as guys trying to "score" with more girls than their friends consequently hurting some girl they cared nothing for in the beginning. girls hurt each other, guys hurt girls and most guys never learn.
i'm so glad i was never like that and i'm so glad my wife wasn't "bakbitey"
